Have you ever experienced the incredible sensation of being truly seen and understood by someone? It’s not just about hearing the right words but feeling a deep resonance that reaches into your very soul. That moment when another person gets you so profoundly that something within you relaxes and begins to heal. Today, I want to explore this magical experience and how it can transform the way we relate to ourselves and others.

I remember vividly the first time I felt truly understood by another human being. It was during a vulnerable conversation with a woman who was organizing a Nonviolent Communication family camp I wanted to attend. I was nervous, sharing my fears while holding the phone tightly, staring at the floor in deep concentration. And then, something remarkable happened: she resonated with my felt experience.

It was more than just listening; it was magic. She understood exactly how it felt to be me in that moment. The impact was profound, as if a frozen part of me...

Recently, I had the opportunity to attend a conference, which has always been a source of inspiration and community for me. The energy there is so warm and welcoming, and it feels like a big family reunion every time. The people are diverse, fun, and deeply connected, making each experience truly enriching.

One memorable moment from the conference was sparked by a speaker who mentioned the concept of “sandpaper” in relationships. It was a lighthearted metaphor, yet so true. We all chuckled, recognizing how certain interactions can feel abrasive, depending on the situation. This idea of ‘sandpaper’ stuck with me, especially as I encountered a situation that challenged my usual patterns of behavior.

During the conference, I found myself in a scenario that triggered an old survival pattern—a pattern where I avoid conflict at all costs. It happened when I was saving seats for my team in the front row, only to have someone else claim the seat I had reserved....

As I continue on my path of self-discovery and healing, I often reflect on the earlier stages of my journey—back when I first started noticing my patterns. At the time, I was consumed with shame every time I recognized one of these patterns in myself. My initial reaction was, "This is bad. I shouldn’t be doing that." But over time, and with compassionate understanding, I’ve learned not to step into the field of judgment so quickly.

One of the most powerful things I did during those early stages, which helped me begin to dissolve the patterns or, at the very least, diminish their control over my behavior, was simply acknowledging them. When I noticed I was running a pattern, I no longer made myself wrong for it. Instead, I chose to witness it.

I would take a step back—into my heart—and observe my behavior with curiosity, rather than judgment. I started to ask myself, "What is this pattern really about? What are the nuances of my experience that allow...

I invite you to step into the past with me to learn about a client’s transformative journey using the Mind Body Method in a session with a horse.

With eyes closed and arms outstretched, my client delved deep into her inner world, accompanied by my faithful horse.

Unraveling the layers of fear and inhibition, she confronted childhood conditioning that stifled her emotions and hindered her expression. Memories of her father's stern admonishments to "stop crying" flooded back, leaving her feeling unseen and unheard in her experience of life.

With tears and vulnerability, she acknowledged the pain of hiding her true self, even from herself. The weight of expectations and the need to be strong for others weighed heavily on her shoulders, leaving her feeling disconnected and alone.

With gentle guidance, she learned to trust her body's wisdom and embrace her authenticity. Through a series of exercises, she tapped into the sensations in her body, naming her fears and emotions as they...

I've taken a moment to reflect on the common thread weaving through the experiences of many on this life journey—a struggle with self-identity and navigating the complexities of existence. Often, we find ourselves operating on autopilot, driven by societal expectations and conditioned beliefs about who we should be.

In my own life, I've encountered moments of doubt and shame, unsure of the value in the concept of awakening and self-rebirth. The internal struggle led to a harsh, self-critical voice that perpetuated worry, shame, and guilt—a challenging loop to break. However, I want to share that it is indeed possible to discover your path, embracing the freedom to be your authentic self. Compassionate understanding around life's intricacies becomes attainable, and you can find inspiration in living fully aligned with your true essence.

By honoring your emotions and understanding their messages, a transformative journey unfolds. It's a bottom-up process that nurtures...

What is at the root of ruptures in relationships? Is it possible to stay engaged? Have you ever experienced meeting another person and everything felt like it clicked? You finish each other's sentences and rift off the meaning underlying whatever concept you are exploring? Ahhh... the enjoyment of budding new relationships filled with infinite possibilities! It's likened to a "honeymoon" experience in relationships with powerful attractor fields at play.

What was it like when the "honeymoon" was over? When things didn't unfold as you had predicted or hoped for? When the first unexpected wrinkle in the smooth interactions was noticed - what was your felt experience in that moment? 

Perhaps your body paused in contraction, your brow furrowed, and you noticed you were unable to speak. Did you hold your breath?

Maybe your spine straightened, and you leaned forward aggressively, as a compulsion to take action was sparked within you "to communicate, take control, or set things...