Recently, I had the opportunity to attend a conference, which has always been a source of inspiration and community for me. The energy there is so warm and welcoming, and it feels like a big family reunion every time. The people are diverse, fun, and deeply connected, making each experience truly enriching.

One memorable moment from the conference was sparked by a speaker who mentioned the concept of “sandpaper” in relationships. It was a lighthearted metaphor, yet so true. We all chuckled, recognizing how certain interactions can feel abrasive, depending on the situation. This idea of ‘sandpaper’ stuck with me, especially as I encountered a situation that challenged my usual patterns of behavior.

During the conference, I found myself in a scenario that triggered an old survival pattern—a pattern where I avoid conflict at all costs. It happened when I was saving seats for my team in the front row, only to have someone else claim the seat I had reserved....

The other day, I was having a conversation with someone I’ve spoken with many times before. As we talked, I noticed a pattern unfolding in their life—one that had become so clear to me, but they seemed completely unaware of it. They couldn’t see that they were running a routine that shaped how their life played out. What struck me most was how this person was constantly busy, filled with tasks that, on the surface, seemed good and productive. But it made me wonder—had they ever truly slowed down to ask themselves if these "good" things were aligned with what they actually love?

It’s a question I think many of us could ask ourselves: Are the things keeping us busy things we truly love, or are they just habits we’ve fallen into over time?

In today’s fast-paced world, it’s easy to get caught up in the rush, checking off tasks, handling responsibilities, and moving from one thing to the next without pause. But what if those busy routines...